Saturday, September 03, 2016

Sawang Sinawang

  • Aku melihat hidup orang lain begitu nikmat,
    Ternyata ia hanya menutupi kekurangannya tanpa berkeluh kesah...
  • Aku melihat hidup teman-temanku tak ada duka dan kepedihan,
    Ternyata ia hanya pandai menutupi dengan mensyukuri...
  • Aku melihat hidup saudaraku tenang tanpa ujian,
    Ternyata ia begitu menikmati badai ujian dalam kehidupannya...
  • Aku melihat hidup sahabatku begitu sempurna,
    Ternyata ia hanya berbahagia "menjadi apa adanya"...
  • Aku melihat hidup tetanggaku beruntung,
    Ternyata ia selalu tunduk pada Allah untuk bergantung...
  • Maka aku merasa tidak perlu iri hati dengan rejeki orang lain...
    Mungkin aku tak tahu dimana rejekiku..
    Tapi rejekiku tahu dimana diriku...
  • Dari lautan biru, bumi dan gunung, Tuhan telah memerintahkannya menuju kepadaku...
  • Tuhan yang Maha pengasih menjamin rejekiku, sejak 9 bulan 10 hari aku dalam kandungan ibuku...
  • Amatlah keliru bila berkeyakinan rejeki dimaknai dari hasil bekerja... Karena bekerja adalah ibadah, sedang rejeki itu urusan-Nya...
  • Melalaikan kebenaran demi menghawatirkan apa yang dijamin-Nya, adalah kekeliruan berganda...
  • Manusia membanting tulang, demi angka simpanan gaji, yang mungkin esok akan ditinggal mati...
  • Mereka lupa bahwa hakekat rejeki bukan apa yang tertulis dalam angka, tapi apa yang telah dinikmatinya...
  • Rejeki tak selalu terletak pada pekerjaan kita, sang Pencipta menaruh berkat sekehendak-Nya...
    Ikhtiar itu perbuatan...
    Rejeki itu kejutan...
  • Dan yang tidak boleh dilupakan, tiap hakekat rejeki akan ditanya kelak...
    "Darimana dan digunakan untuk apa" Karena rejeki hanyalah "Hak Pakai", bukan "Hak Milik"... 

Wednesday, March 02, 2016

6 Rules of Success by Arnold Schwarzenegger

1. Trust yourself
Many young people are getting so much advice from their parents and from their teachers and from everyone. But what is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who. Figure out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people.
2. Break the Rules
Break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you’re too well behaved and don’t want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?
3. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail
Anything I’ve ever attempted, I was always willing to fail. So you can’t always win, but don’t afraid of making decisions. You can’t be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come. So don’t be afraid to fail.
4. Don’t Listen to the Naysayers
How many times have you heard that you can’t do this and you can’t do that and it’s never been done before? I love it when someone says that no one has ever done this before, because then when I do it that means that I’m the first one that has done it. So pay no attention to the people that say it can’t be done. I never listen to, “You can’t.” (Applause) I always listen to myself and say, “Yes, you can.”
5. Work Your Butt Off
You never want to fail because you didn’t work hard enough. Mohammed Ali, one of my great heroes, had a great line in the ’70s when he was asked, “How many sit-ups do you do?” He said, “I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. When I feel pain, that’s when I start counting, because that’s when it really counts.” That’s what makes you a champion. No pain, no gain.
But when you’re out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that. Now, if you want to coast through life, don’t pay attention to any of those rules. But if you want to win, there is absolutely no way around hard, hard work. Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.
6. Give Back
Whatever path that you take in your lives, you must always find time to give something back, something back to your community, give something back to your state or to your country.
Remember these 6 rules. Trust yourself, break some rules, don’t be afraid to fail, ingore the naysayers, work like hell, and give something back.
Arnold Schwarzenegger
Commencement Address
University of Southern California
May 15, 2009

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Principles of Effective Presentations

Every time you stand in front of a group, you must achieve two basic goals. First, you need to communicate a message. And second, you need to communicate your personality — who you are as a professional and an individual. If “the medium is the message,” your personality is the window through which the message must travel to be received, understood and acted upon by the audience.

You convey your message and your personality every day of your life in relaxed conversation. And relaxed conversation is, therefore, your best possible communication style.

By understanding the following principles, you can sharpen the skills youʼve acquired one-on-one and transfer those skills to group presentations, thereby increasing your effectiveness in both.

PRINCIPLE #1:
YOUR BEST STYLE IS RELAXED CONVERSATION

Every day of your life, you convey your mes- sages and your personality while engaged in conversation. You should therefore emulate conversation in your presentations. Youʼre not there to "download" information. You are there to create understanding that is based on a two-way exchange, and to facilitate an environment in which people can apply what you tell them to their personal or professional life.

If you see a puzzled expression, donʼt wait for them to ask a question. Handle it the same way you would in a conversation. Ask them if there is something you can explain more effectively.

Allow questions throughout your presenta- tions. But be brief with your answers. Ques- tions are an opportunity to create milestones of mutual understanding. But remember, you pass milestones. You donʼt camp at them.

PRINCIPLE #2:
BE YOURSELF

You are unique. You have your own way of speaking and your own mannerisms -- how you talk, how you stand, how you hold your hands. To convey your personality to a group, you must express yourself in a man- ner similar to the ways in which you express yourself one-on-one. If you are expressive with your hands one-on-one, it's OK to be expressive with your hands when talking to a group. In fact, it's essential.
You know it's important to be on your best behavior. You know there are certain stan- dards that you must meet. You must dress appropriately. You must be attentive when someone asks a question. You must answer the question.

But worry less about how you "present" your- self, than how you communicate with the members of the group. Your body language must be natural. And what is natural for you is probably not natural for someone else, or vice-versa, which is why we hesitate in set- ting rules for gestures you should use or the body language you should attempt to convey.

To understand this, think of the gestures you make when you are enthusiastically explain- ing a concept to a friend over the telephone. Who are these gestures for? The person on the other end? Understand that these ges- tures are part of who you are as an individ- ual. Bring them to your presentations and let them happen naturally.

PRINCIPLE #3:
RELAXED CONVERSATION IS TWO- WAY

To be effective, relaxed conversation must be two-way. Indeed, by definition, all communi- cation must be two-way.

Even if one person does most of the talking in a conversation, he or she is looking for the nods, listening for the "uh-huhs," and stop- ping to answer questions. The sender quickly recognizes that a blank look means the receiver is not listening. He or she will respond by changing tactics -- pausing to let the listener catch up or asking if there is a question.

Your presentations, like your conversations, must be two-way. If you treat people with respect, and create a two-way process in which their questions are answered clearly and concisely, you stand a better chance of having them use or act on the information you present.

PRINCIPLE #4:
RELAXED CONVERSATION IS RECEIVER-DRIVEN

In a relaxed conversation, the speed at which information goes from sender to receiver is driven by the receiver's needs, not the sender's. During a conversation, if the per- son listening doesn't signal that he or she understands — with a "nod" or by saying "uh- huh" — the sender stops to create a mile- stone of mutual understanding before moving on. If the sender doesnʼt do this, the receiver will stop listening.

The same applies to your presentations. If you talk nonstop, you will quickly lose your audience. Instead, make sure the informa- tion youʼre sending is driven by the audi- enceʼs needs, not yours. If you throw out an idea that creates puzzled expressions, itʼs probably a good time to stop and ask: “Are there any questions?”.

PRINCIPLE #5
LESS IS MORE

The less you say, the more your audience remembers. If you try to cram too much in- formation into your presentations, you will not create a two-way exchange. And you cer- tainly wonʼt be receiver-driven. How can you be? The speed at which information travels from you to the audience is not driven by their need for understanding, but your need to get through it all in time.

If you have one hour for your presentation, bring 30 minutes of information. This leaves plenty of time for questions, enables you to finish on time or a bit early, and allows you time for networking at the end.

PRINCIPLE #6:
PEOPLE CAN LISTEN OR THEY CAN THINK,
BUT THEY CANʼT DO BOTH

As human beings, we can listen or we can think. But virtually none of us can listen and think at the same time. By definition, this means that you must “pause” when delivering your presentations. And those pauses must be as full and as frequent in your presenta- tions as they are in your conversations.

You want your seminars to be thought- provoking. You want people to think about what youʼre saying and apply it to their per- sonal situation. But while theyʼre thinking, if youʼre talking, they wonʼt hear a word you say.

If you talk nonstop, members of the audience will miss large portions of what you say.
Theyʼll rush to catch up once or twice. After that, theyʼll give up. And, if they give up, your chances of doing further business with them decreases proportionately.


PRINCIPLE #7:
PEOPLE WONʼT REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAY

Participants at your presentations will not re- member your exact words. Instead, they will remember what they thought about what you said — how they took your information and applied it to their frame of reference.

But this process can only occur in silence, whether you give them that silence, or they take it for themselves. And remember, if they take that silence while youʼre talking, they wonʼt hear a word you say.

PRINCIPLE #8:
BE CONVERSATIONAL IN YOUR DELIVERY

If youʼve ever read the transcript of an inter- view or conversation, youʼve probably noticed that people rarely talk in complete sentences. And if you participated in the conversation from which the transcript was drawn, you were probably shocked at what you saw writ- ten down.

There is a basic pattern in relaxed conversa- tion. In the first step, which we refer to as the first pause, the sender thinks about what he or she is going to say. Once the idea is formed, the sender expresses it. If the sender is enthusiastic, the words come tum- bling out at a rapid rate of word delivery.

Once the idea is delivered, the sender stops talking and allows the listener to absorb the idea and relate it to a meaningful frame of reference. During this second pause, the sender watches and listens for the receiverʼs reaction. Once there is a nod or “uh-huh”, the sender forms the next idea. And so on.

PRINCIPLE #9:
THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

In a conversation, you take time to form each thought before you say it. You should at- tempt to do the same thing at your seminars, although that can be much more difficult be- cause of the impact of adrenaline. But stop talking. Think through the thought. Start talking again.

Use good notes. Focus on delivering one idea at a time. This will get you off to a strong start. And, as for nervousness, by en- couraging questions, you take the emphasis off a presentation and switch it to an ex- tended conversation. Never forget that the greatest reducer of nervousness in public

speaking is a question or two that you can answer clearly and concisely.

PRINCIPLE #10:
SILENCE IS ESSENTIAL

There are two types of silence. The first is for you to think.  This is the first pause. In a conversation, after you express each idea, you look to see if the other person has “got- ten it”. Again, you do so while pausing. We call this the second pause. The first pause is for you to think. The second is for them to think.

During your presentations, remember that youʼre not there to prove that you can talk nonstop. Youʼre there to provide information that people can think about and apply to their own personal circumstances. But remember, they can only think in silence — whether you provide that silence or they take it for them- selves.

If you lose your place or your audience, pause. If youʼre lost, the pause allows you to think about where you are, where youʼre go- ing, and what you need to say. If theyʼre lost, the pause will help them find their way back so they can listen to your ideas again, and relate those ideas to their personal frame of reference.

Sunday, January 03, 2016

10 Kepribadian Luar Biasa

1. Ǩếtulusαπ
Ǩếtulusαπ memϐųαt orαπğ lαin Mếrasa ∕̴Ɩmαπ ϑάπ ϑiHαŕğαi kareπa γαkïπ Ƭiϑαk αkαπ ϑiϐodohi αtαu ϑiϐohongi..:)

2. Ǩếreπϑαhαπ Hαti
Ǩếreπϑαhαπ hαti Mếπgungkαpkαπ Ǩếkuatan. Hαπγα orαπğ ƴanğ Ǩuat Jiwanya ƴğ ϐisα ϐersikap Rendah Hαti. Orαπğ ƴanğ Rendah Hαti αkαπ ϐisα Mếπgakΰi ϑάπ Mếπghαŕğαi Ǩeunggulan Orαπğ Lain..(y)

3. Ǩếsetiααπ
Ǩếsetiααπ sųϑαh menĴădi ϐαrαπğ Lαπgka ϑάπ sαπğαt Mαhαl Hαŕğαπγα.. Orαπğ ƴanğ Sètiα sếlαlų ϐisα ϑiPếrcαƴα ϑάπ ϐisα ϑi∕̴Ɩπϑαlkαπ..ȋα sếlαlų Mếnepαti Ĵαπji, Pųπγα Komitmen ƴanğ Kuat, Rela ϐếrkorban ϑάπ Ƭiϑαk Sųkα ϐerkhiαπαt..({})

4. Ƥositiƒ Ƭhinking
Orαπğ ƴğ ϐếrsikap Ƥositif selαlų ϐếrusaha Mếlihat sgαlα sesuatu dαri Kacamata Ƥositif, ϐahkan ϑalam Situasi ƴanğ ϐuruk sekalipun:*

5. Ǩếceriααπ
Orαπğ ƴanğ Ceria αϑαlαh orαπğ ƴanğ ϐisα Mếπikmati Hiϑųp, Ƭiϑαk śųkα Mếngeluh ϑάπ sếlαlų ϐếrusaha Mếraih Kếgembiraan.. ȋa Ƥųπγα Ƥotensi ųπtųk Mếnghibur ϑάπ Mếπdorong Sếmangat Orαπğ lain.

6. ϐếrtanggung Ĵăwaϐ
Orαπğ ƴğ ϐếrtanggung Ĵăwab αkαπ Mếlaksanakan Kếwajibαππγα ϑenğaπ Sungguh"-sunGguh.. Jikα ‎​ȋα Mếlakukan Kesαlαhαπ, ȋα ϐerani Mếπgakuinya.

7. Pếrcaya Ðiri
Mếmungkinkan sếseorang Mếnerima Ðiriπγα sếϐαğαimana αϑαπγα, Mếπghαrğαi Ðiriπγα ϑάπ Mếπghαrğαi Orαπğ lain.

8. Ǩếbesaran Jiwa..
Ðαpαt ϑilihat dαri Kếmampuαπ sếseorang Mếmaafkan Orαπğ lain...Orαπğ ƴğ ϐếrjiwa ϐesar Ƭiϑαk αkαπ Mếmϐiαrkαπ Ðiriπγα ϑiKųαsαi oleh Rasa ϐenci ϑάπ Ƥếrmusuhan.

9. Ếαsy Going..
Orαπğ ƴanğ Mếmiliki Siƒαt iπi Mếnjαlαπi Hidupπγα ϑenğaπ Ringan. Ðia Ƭiϑαk śųkα Mếm-ϐesar"-besarkan Mαśαlαh..ϐahkan ȋα ϐếrusaha Mếngecilkαπ Mαśαlαh-masalah ϐesar.

10. ϐȋjαksαπα
ϐȋjαksαπα αϑαlαh Siƒαt ƴanğ sαπğαt Mếπgagumkαπ...Oranğ ƴanğ ϐijαksαπα ϐųkαπ śαjα ϐisα menĴădi Ƥếndengar ƴanğ ϐαik, tαƥi jųğα ϐisα Mếπempatkαπ Ðiriπγα pαϑα Ƥosisi Õrαπğ Lain.

Friday, May 15, 2015

10 "FILOSOFI JAWA" yang diajarkan oleh Kanjeng Sunan Kalijaga


1. Urip Iku Urup
(Hidup itu Nyala, Hidup itu hendaknya memberi manfaat bagi orang lain disekitar kita, semakin besar manfaat yang bisa kita berikan tentu akan lebih baik)

2. Memayu Hayuning Bawono, Ambrasto dur Hangkoro
(Manusia hidup di dunia harus mengusahakan keselamatan, kebahagiaan dan kesejahteraan; serta memberantas sifat angkara murka, serakah dan tamak).

3. Suro Diro Joyo Jayaningrat, Lebur Dening Pangastuti
(segala sifat keras hati, picik, angkara murka, hanya bisa dikalahkan dgn sikap bijak, lembut hati dan sabar)

4. Ngluruk Tanpo Bolo, Menang Tanpo Ngasorake, Sekti Tanpo Aji-Aji, Sugih Tanpa Bondho
(Berjuang tanpa perlu membawa massa; Menang tanpa merendahkan atau mempermalukan; Berwibawa tanpa mengandalkan kekuatan; Kaya tanpa didasari kebendaan)

5. Datan Serik Lamun Ketaman, Datan Susah Lamun Kelangan
(Jangan gampang sakit hati manakala musibah menimpa diri; Jangan sedih manakala kehilangan sesuatu).

6. Ojo Gumunan, Ojo Getunan, ojo Kagetan, ojo Aleman
(Jangan mudah terheran-heran; Jangan mudah menyesal; Jangan mudah terkejut-kejut; Jangan mudah kolokan atau manja).

7. Ojo Ketungkul Marang Kalungguhan, Kadonyan lan Kemareman
(Janganlah terobsesi atau terkungkung oleh keinginan untuk memperoleh kedudukan, kebendaan dan kepuasan duniawi).

8. Ojo Kuminter Mundak Keblinger, ojo Cidra Mundak Cilaka
(Jangan merasa paling pandai agar tidak salah arah; Jangan suka berbuat curang agar tidak celaka).

9. Ojo Milik Barang Kang Melok, Aja Mangro Mundak Kendo
(Jangan tergiur oleh hal-hal yang tampak mewah, cantik, indah; Jangan berfikir mendua agar tidak kendor niat dan kendor semangat).

10. Ojo Adigang, Adigung, Adiguno
(Jangan sok kuasa, sok besar, sok sakti)